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Gender: F
Age: 24
State: new jersey
Country: usa
Experience...
I am a 24y/o female w/lots of confusion........I am currently in Nursing school and focusing on my future. I have no children-by choice and safe practices.
My story goes like this....I know Im wrong for some and not for others-I dont know anymore. While in school a blood drive was goin on and I was asked to donate w/o thought I went to donate......Approximately three weeks later I get a call on my cell at work and its the blood bank calling to say that my blood is unacceptable for unspecified reasons.....????? I asked several times please tell me whats going on w/me....They wouldnt say for legal/state law reasons......What do I do? Im so stressed,depressed and for the most part suicidal.
The worst of all is I am dating this guy (I know this is the bad part) who is married and I havent told him yet what the blood drive told me. He sees this worried look on my face,but doesnt know why.I want to tell him, but I dont know anything myself.I take the test next week and hope for the best outcome.....I dont know what to do.... [512]
Gender: F
Age: 13
State: Mo.
Country: United States
Experience...
Well my life was so sad i couldn`t do anything b/c everyone heard about it and no one wanted to date me. I got this way from having sex with out a condom. my life is hell [505]
Gender: M
Age: 18
State: IL
Country: U.S.A.
Experience...
I am 18 years old....and im scared about 4 months ago i had sexual intercourse with someone that may be HIV positive and couple months later i had a rash all over my body and sore throat but i thought nothing of it, now that im reading up im scared i might have passed it on not knowing. Can someone tell me if the flu like symptoms reocur or a one time thing.....please i need some advice. I want to have kids and my life is just starting i don`t want it to end now. [442]
Gender: F
Age: 27
Country: usa
Experience...
I am terrified that I might be infected with HIV, I had an experience where no sex occurred because I really did not want to, but the guy kept asking for me to do "other things" I asked him to put on a condom and he said he didnt have any and wasn`t messing around with anyone else so he was fine, still I did not allow full intercourse but there was contact between his uncovered penis and my vaginal region. About 4 days later I went to the doctor for strep throat-like symptoms, I took a antibiotic and it seemed to go away but a month later I am taking antibiotics again for upper respiratory infection...I blood tested about 2 or 3 weeks later and it said undetectable, but I still need to test again in a few months I guess to be sure...I want to have kids and a family, which seems like it would be impossible if I`m infected. This is killing me inside! Can anyone give me their feedback? [311]
Gender: F
Age: 39
State: Tennessee
Country: United States of America
Experience...
I personally do not have an experience with Aids but I read an article from a young married woman on this site from Africa. I felt very sad for the young lady because she had two children and a husband whom did not believe her when she told him that she has not cheated on him. I felt as if she was being truthful about her situation because she was sincere enough to be open wiht him to try and communicate with him about their situation. she could`ve gone on with her life and not even try to be woman enough about her disease and star off another life else where. Life can throw you all sorts of balls and it`s really and truly up to you and your conscience how your going to deal with it. I would like to tell thwe young woman to hang on and keep her positive attitude even though she says that she has thought about doing away with her life and her kids; she really has a stronger constitution within her heart to remain wiht her husband with the rocky situation and how teir drealing with it. [262]
Gender: F
Age: 44
State: new york
Country: usa
Experience...
I was diagnosed with AIDS about ten years ago. I am writing especially to the African woman with two children. I also had small children at that time. I was very ill when I was told. You are fortunate to not be ill. I know it is a very scary thing to deal with. I would just beg of you to not take your own lif and the life of your children. Just deal with each day as it comes. I know things may seem hopoeless there but I believe the researchers and scientist are so close to finding a cure. Just pray, and if you don`t have a relationship with the Lord, establish one. Find scriptures that will encourage your heart and hold on. God has not forgotten any you. He is a deliverer and I believe with all of my heart that new treatments are becoming available to the countries there. Please don`t give up. Your marriage may be going through some test right now, but Love will endure everything, including AIDS! Trust me, I speak from ten years of experience. I am currently in a trial study of a new drug and I am undetectable and symptom free, to God be the glory! Please, hang in there! From one who truly, truly cares. [137]
Gender: F
Age: 26
State: new provindence
Country: bahamas
Experience...
Iam 26 and HIV positive I got it from my husbond who is now dead.
he got when he was 18 in 1989 at a time when a name was just formed for this. He knew he had it when we met and he never told me, the first two years we used condoms then i wanted to have a baby and instead of him saying no! he was tring to get me pregnant, knowing that he had AIDS and that he would give that to me.After nothing happen i started to think i couldnt have kids.two years later we got married still he dont tell me he had AIDS, It was almost a year into our marrage when he started to get sick. And after watching him and what was happening to him i went to the doctor book that i kept at my bed head. And i read a page on AIDS, and i started to cry because i knew thats what he had it from the sign that i saw. And the most hurtful part about it was i asked him if he had AIDS and he said no. With in months he was in the hospital and thats where he died. I forgive him for my peace at heart and because i trust in God.I`am to scared to ever have sex again because iam afraid of passing it to someone. so i stay to myself and God. [104]
Gender: F
Age: 35
State: Washington
Country: America
Experience...
To the lady w/ two children, who is HIV positive and said that she was thinking about ending her life and that of her two children. Please, please do NOT do that. You do not deserve that, and your CHILDREN especially, do NOT deserve that. Please get some help or some support in order to begin to take care of yourselfves and your babies properly. Why is it that you cannot talk to anyone about it? Is it too much of a stigma or something? Whatver you do - please remember that Live is Precious. There are many drugs these days that can help prolong the lives of people who have HIV - Please get some help. You are just soo sad, you will feel so much better after seeking support. You should NOT have to deal w/ this alone - there ARE people out there who will support you, help you and just be there for you. Please, find out where you can get help - You are your child`s only to the outside world - don`t deprive them.....best regards, Valena [87]
Gender: M
Age: 52
State: California
Country: USA
Experience...
I don`t have AIDS but I can`t help but to weep for the woman in South Africa who just shared her experience. I`ve experienced being alone, but with things that are trivial compared to what you`re going through. Evidently the Counseling isn`t working. How about friends, family, neighbors? Your husband is probably feeling alone too. It`s a shame that the two of you can`t find a way to support each other. Perhaps he knew he was infected with HIV, and is feeling guilt? (Apologies for hypothesizing).
There are people who care. Just not really sure what can be helpful. [71]
Gender: F
Age: 28
State: Gauteng
Country: south africa
Experience...
I am 28 year old wife and mother of two, I only found out when I was pragnant with my second child that I was HIV positive in 2002 only to find out that my husband did not have It and I never cheated on him ever in my life but six months later he was also positive and we were using condoms after finding out about my status, He only asked me one question that whwere did I contract the disease from and since then we never talked about It but our merriage is not the same anymore I think he blames me but He never said It, sometimes He never sleep at home he comes home late from everyday and we never communicate at all If we do we end up fighting. We tried to go for councelling but It does not help to atlist talk about his feelings right now we are trying out individual councelling,the worst part of this is that nobody knows about our situation except our councilor Its killing me inside having to deal with this on my own I need someone else to talk to sometimes I even think about a selfish thing as killing myself and my two babies. [70]
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