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Gender: F
Age: 45
State: oh
Country: us
Experience...
I have been married to the same man for 18 years going on 19... About 5 years ago... my husband was experiencing a blister like rash in his genitials.. and asked me what I thought it was... as he does sometimes have allergic reactions to antibiotics... this time he wasnt taking any medicine. He went to the dr and said the dr told him he had herpes. When he told me this. I was totally shocked... he said the dr said. since that is his first breakout.. someone had to give it to him... and I know it wasnt me... I never never cheated on my man... So as I started doing research on it... I only came to the conclusion that he cheated on me... How else could he of gotten it... Then he said. the dr also said that he can be a carrier back in his hey days... but that would of been 13-16 years ago... and that herpes can stay dormat for a long time. meaning maybe he contacted it before being intimate with me and that he carried it this long and just had his first outbreak.
Now here is a another story to go with this. About 11 years ago... we were having some marriage difficulty.. with that said. he confinded in a woman and a male friend and at last said to me that he felt we were both going opposite ways and should separate...
first of all, i was totally shocked that he would ever confine in a woman about our relationship and troubles.. that is not David.. but I guess he did and also to confined in a friend.
after we decided to work it out. he decided to go to counseling to figure out what he really wants... he shared with me what the counselor asked etc. One of the things that he told me was the counselor told him to tell me everything he has thought of... well I mean to let me know that the woman he confided in me... he had feelings for her... because she was there for him... to make a long story short.
after this disease thing. that came back in my mind. and told me that he did have an affair... I am so lost... as he says he didnt still. and was open about what the dr said he had.
Please advise... I never slept with anyone before all the years I have been with him.
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Gender: F
Age: 31
Country: USA
Experience...
I have had genital herpes for almost 13 years. I was diagnosed while I was pregnant with my first child. At the time, I was young, unmarried, and had no idea what having this disease really meant. I was infected by a partner who did not tell me he had the disease. At first, the breakouts were fewer, but as I get older and am under more stress with my job, I find that they are occurring more frequently (opposite from what the books say will happen). I have opted not to utilize the preventative medications out there, ex. Valtrex, simply because I work in the medical profession and want to maintain my privacy. Beginning about 6 years ago, I began to develop the blisters in other areas of my body, mainly in my low back above my buttocks area. These lesions are very itchy and painful, and I am noticing more and more that my lower leg nerves are involved. I can feel this itching in my knees and upper thighs at times. The itch is below the skin deep in the muscles, and cannot be relieved. I believe this to be a form of shingles, maybe activated by the Type 2 virus. Luckily I have never had breakouts in obvious places. Depression comes and goes with the blisters and just when I think I am getting better, it seems to get worse. Nonetheless, I am now married to a wonderful man who accepts me for who I am, but we are extremely careful not to infect him. WE have been married for over 4 years and he has not contracted this virus in any form. I have another child now and he is healthy. I did not tell my OBGYN about the disease. A chance, yes, but my baby is healthy through many prayers.
The object of this forum is to help others, and the best advice that I can give to anyone, based on my experience, is to avoid unprotected sex at all cost. If you already have Herpes, realize that you are still worthy of love and happiness. For many years I felt dirty and unworthy, but this disease is like any other- it requires patience and understanding and most of all, taking care of yourself. A healthy immune system is the best remedy. Try to control your stress level,get plenty of rest, and eat right-oh, and know that foods with certain enzymes can trigger breakouts- for example, peanuts.
You don`t have to share with everyone that you have this disease, as it is NOT what makes you who you are. Yes, you are unfortunate to have contracted it, but you are still every bit as strong, ambitous, and deserving as you were before.
I continue to hope and pray that a cure will be found and deep down, I believe that it will.
Keep fighting, but for the right reasons. Do not let this disease change any of your plans or goals because if you do, it has won.
Thanks for listening and I hope that this helps in some way. [480]
Gender: F
Age: 37
State: california
Country: usa
Experience...
Love yourself and take care of your body, spirit, and mind. [462]
Gender: F
Age: 27
State: WV
Country: Berkeley
Experience...
Well, I have herpes semplex 1 otherwise known as cold sores or fever blisters. Of course I have recently had a breakout on my lip and my boyfriend of 6 months is feaking out because he says I wasn`t honest with him from the beginning. Now he says he cant believe me or trust me and he is really making this a huge deal out of this. It`s like he wants to break up with me because of it. I am just so confused right now I don`t know what to do about it.
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Gender: M
Age: 52
State: pa
Country: usa
Experience...
With H, you EXIST. No sane NORMAL(non diseased) woman wants a guy with a non curable sexually transmitted DISEASE. There is a CURE, but why kill the golden goose($uppre$$ant$)? Why do you thing this "free herpes room" is FREE? LOOK at all the drugs being hawked by the drug makers. Like MOTHS(H PEOPLE)to a FLAME(DRUG COMPANIES). Looks like I may have to settle for a desperate H girl after all. They are the only ones I can be with now. [284]
Gender: F
Age: 25
State: NC
Country: USA
Experience...
I have herpes I have known since before the birth of my second child which was almost 6 years ago. I do not know exactly when I was infected or do not know who I was infected by I do have an idea, but am really not sure. At one time in my life I was really wild and out there messing with anyone just because I could. I had low self-esteem even though noone knew and I didn`t know how to deal with life so I messed with any and everybody. But my situation is it finally caught up to me. I have transmitted it before but the person knew ahead of time that I was infected with herpes. We thought we were going to get married so I guess he didn`t have a problem with getting the disease, but my dilemma is that recently I started dating someone from my past. He`s a nice guy and back when we dated I should have took the oppurtunity to advance our relationship, but I was out there and dealing with that self-esteem issue. But anyway I recently found out that I may have transmitted this disease to him and I had to tell him my little secret. It was really hard and although he probably hates me I wish that we could still deal with each other and further our relationship. I know he probbaly never wants to see me again and the only thing he can muster up to say to me is that he never would have thought I would give this to him. I know that I should have handled my situation a little better, but I didn`t so now I`m left to deal with this crisis forever. I want him to understand that I never meant to hurt him and would never mean to intentionally transmit this to him. If he can`t accept my apology then I guess I`m left in a dark place. I really thought we could have something and maybe we could have if I would have followed the necessary precautions to avoid giving this disease to him. So my message to all who read this: LIVE YOUR LIFE TO THE FULLEST BUT LIVE FOR THE FUTURE WHO KNOWS WHAT TOMMORROW BRINGS BUT MAKE SURE IT WILL EVENTUALLY LEAD TO HAPPINESS [261]
Gender: F
Age: 26
State: ny
Country: us
Experience...
my story is i have herpes which ive known about since 1999..Currently i have a boyfriend and we have unprotected sex each time im fully aware i could have possibly spread my disease to him but i choose to remain silent about it..i want to tell him really bad but dont know how to.how do i tell someone i knew i had this disease & still i chose to have unprotected sex with him. [243]
Gender: M
Age: 52
State: Georgia
Country: United States of America
Experience...
My name is Kevin Robert Landry and I am giving my name because I believe I deserve credit for what I am about to share.
Many years ago I contracted a viral type of acne from my girlfriend that just wouldn`t go away. I am not sure what it was called medically but no matter how it was treated (it was painful and itched) it would not heal by any medical means and it kept coming back in the same spots around my and her mouth usually about an inch or so from the lips, but not like cold sores.
Anyway, After a number of years following our breakup I read somewhere that heat will kill virus germs. So it occurred to me if I applied enough heat to these bumps when they appeared I could kill the virus and that would eliminate them.
So whenever a bump appeared I would fix a very hot cup of coffee and apply this to the bump, pressing my tongue against the inside surface of my mouth on the other side of the bump thus pushing it against the cup, minimizing pain on the peripheral skin surface and maximizing the heat in the bump tissue. Do this for as long as you can stand it and a bit longer. I`m not kidding when I say you could almost feel some thing in there dying! (Well yes of course it hurts! No pain, no gain!) If you do this right the first time the bump will NEVER come back!
It works people! I haven`t had an outbreak in almost 22 years and no scars either! "Stop your doubting and believe!" Get some macho guy with the problem to try it! But cover the coffee cup with plastic wrap so he doesn`t spill it on his face! It works! It works!
Enough said. It`s called the Landry (Coffee) Heat treatment. (Make certain all the less intellectually gifted are told three times to put plastic wrap on top of the cup so they don`t burn themselves. This also helps keep the heat in the liquid while the purgation goes on.)
This is my year round Christmas gift to one and all. No charge.
Kevin [178]
Gender: F
Age: 16
State: tx
Country: us
Experience...
well i am 16 and i`ve had herpes for a year now.my father was murdered 3 weeks before my 15 b-day.i went crazy i started running away doing drugs.i went to a party with 2 of my best friends,and they raped me at that party.two days l8tr i got arrested for being a run away and i got put in letot for 6 weeks well while i was there i started having really bad sores in my vaginal area.i told the nurses that were there but they said it wasnt there problem.my mom came and got me and took me to the hospital.they gave me a papsmear the doctor said that she could tell it was herpes just by looking at it.I had it so bad there were sores all inside on my cervix,those guys not only gave me that but gonera,climita,and p.i.d.why are people so horrible? well after i found out everything i had i wanted to kill my self.how could i let this happen to me,i thought no one was ever gonna love or ever even want to be around me again.well its been a year and i have been with my boyfriend for 11months now he knows everything because he is and was my best friend before we started dating.i have told every person that i meet and become friends with that i have herpes,because i need to know that people will except me for who i am inspite of everything.I hope one day they will find a cure for all of us so we can stop suffering.i mean valtrex doesn`t always help.All of u are in my prayers.God Bless. [162]
Gender: F
Age: 19
State: Ky
Country: US
Experience...
I have herpes and I don`t know what`s going on. The doctors here are not very smart. I am suffering a great deal, I just need someone to help me. My boyfriend is indenial. I really don`t know what is going on with him. I wish he would let me know. I don`t know what I would do if he died because he wont go get help. It`s all my fault we`ve been together for 2 years and the last past year has been hell. We`re both suffering a great deal. This all happened because of the guy I was dating before him, he had herpes and didn`t let me know. We had oral sex more than once and intercouse more than once. It took about a week for me to notice that there was something wrong. I hate him so much. The medicine here that the doctors have me taking isn`t helping. It`s causing me to have really bad yeast infections and there really painfull. If someone reads this please help if you can. I would give anything in the world to get my boyfriend and I help. Notice I put him first, for the reason that he new up front from day one what was going on with me and he put his health and life on the line because he loved and didn`t want to be alone and suffer by myself. That`s real love ladies I cant explain how much I love him, no, how much im in love with him. It hurts me so much to have to sit and just watch our lives go down the drain, I mean i feel like were dieing, and I don`t want him to die or I. I want to go to college and have children one and have a family. Someone please help me and give me some reall advice. This is real experience and I want to be able to get past it and move on. I`m living this way right now. Just think of how I feel. I don`t want to feel like thisanymore. [156]
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