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Gender: F
Age: 53
State: NOVA SCOTIA
Country: CANADA
Experience...
I want to share this story with many out there that have gone through the same line as I have.I gave my daughter up for adoption in 1971 not expecting to ever hear from this part of my life again so I was told.Trust me it wasn`t easy all these years wondering and worrying about what had ever come of her---but one day I got a call saying she was looking for me(talk about sudden shock syndrome)well I got it that day.Now we are reunited with one another and I must say I will never be any happier in my life than I am right now.Don`t ever let anyone discourage you about not finding what you thought you lost forever. I hope others out there that have or are going through this have the same luck I did. Cheers to all those lost babies you will find your way back with the grace of god. [466]
Gender: F
Age: 39
State: NL.
Country: CANADA
Experience...
I AM CURRENTLY TRYING TO LET GO OF SOMEONE THAT I AHVE BEEN INVOLVED WITH NOW ALMOST 3 YRS, WHEN WE FIRST STARTED DATING IT FELT SO NICE AND I ACTUALLY FELT SPECIAL TO THIS PERSON BUT HAS TIME WENT ON I NOTICED CONTROLLING BEHAVIOR AND IT WAS REALLY HARD TO NOT NOTICE. HE WOULD PUT MY FRIENDS DOWN AND HE ALWAYS WANTED TO BE WITH ME 24/7 WHICH IS NOT A BAD THING.WE WERE BOTH MARRIED BEFORE AND NOW DIVORCED I HAVE A SON AND HE HAS A DAUGHTER, HE NEVER SEES HIS DAUGHTER AND I KNOW THERE IS MORE TO THAT THAN WHAT HE IS TELLING ME.HIS MOM TOLD ME THINGS ABOUT HIM AS WELL AND HIS SISTER, I NOTICED NO SRONG FAMILT TIES, I LOVE HIM BUT I CANNOT CONVINCE HIM THAT THESE THINGS ARE NOT NORMAL, WHEN I TRY TO PUT UP BOUNDARIES (HEALTHY BOUNDARIES HE GETS WORSE AND GIVES ME GRIEF AND USES GUILT AND BLAME TACTICS. PLEASE HELP ME UNDERSTAND THIS AND THERE IS NOTHING I CAN DO TO HELP HIM [445]
Gender: M
Age: 24
State: RI
Country: USA
Experience...
I was looking through STDateline.com when I ran across a link within the Patrons area. It took me about two clicks to get here, but when I realized how great this site was, I ended staying from an hour or so.
My story is pretty short due to my age and all. I didn`t start having sex until college and wasn`t really looking for that fling girl, but she found me all the same. The experience was great, but the after taste wasn`t. I guess you could say I`ll remember her for the rest of my life.
It wasn`t long until I developed genital warts on my penis that I decided to get it checked out. Ouch. So I guess the usual looking for sites to find people like you panned out and here I am, writing to strangers about bumps on my wang. I`m a true believer that everything happens for a reason. I just hope it doesn`t take long to learn this lifes lesson.
Keep your head up,
P.R.I. [439]
Gender: F
Age: 18
State: NY
Country: Putnam
Experience...
I met my father for the first time in August 2004. He left me and my unborn brother in February 1990. My mother was two months pregnant and in nursing school. Mother sent us down to Georgia to meet his family. Maybe to heal us from the neglect and abandonment we have felt for many years from him and his family? It helped meeting my Great Grandpa, Uncle`s and Aunt`s, Step Grandma and cousin`s. It also helped meeting my father for the first time. Mother was right. It helps to know who you came from. Even if they still don`t care about me. We can at least say we tried to open their hearts. My father Michael "Eric" Lewis, stayed in touch for a short amount of time via telephone. He promised my brother an X-box for his birthday. The poor kid ran to that mailbox everyday for weeks in anticipation. But it never came. I felt that this was a horrible thing to do to a kid. Mean. He called a few times after that, but soon ceased all contact. So, if you are the kind of father that does this to your children, please be aware that it is very mean to play on your children`s emotions. Hurtful. And causes a broken heart. You should have been there for us. Emotionally as well as physically and financially through the years. I don`t know how you can live with yourself Eric! I gave you a chance, and you blew it! Again. There will be no third opportunity. Two strikes and your out. By the way, your son almost died this past December. His lung collapsed. And where the heck were you? Hiding. [407]
Gender: F
Age: 25
State: AL
Country: US
Experience...
My children father and i are having very difficult times he left home because he said a man called the house. I really love him and i find my self running up behind him now that he is gone. He claims if he was here i wouldn`t treat him right and i have done all i can to make it work but, i`m still in love so i can`t let go so easily. What should i do. [315]
Gender: F
Age: 28
Experience...
I was 24 when i found out i had herpes. I cried for days and days and wondered how i was going to tell the man i love that i had this sicken diease. i even thought of suicide. Well to make a long story short i told him and he loved me enough to aceppt this. To date we are still together happy as ever! [309]
Gender: F
Experience...
I JUST FOUND OUT THAT MY HUSBAND IS ON VIAGRARA..........HE TOLD ME OUUT THE BLUE HOW WOULD I FEEL IF HE WAS WALKING AROUND ERECT ALL THE TIME ........I WAS SURPRISED AND SAID WELL I WOULD FELL UNCOMFORTABLE KNOWING THIS HAPPENS WITH YOU AND I WOULD WONDER WHAT ARE YOU THINKING AND FELING WHEN THIS HAPPENS AND HE SAID HAT IS WHY HE WEARS LONG SHIRTS OVER HIS PANTS BECAUSE OF THIS ......NOW HE IS OUT SOME WHERE IN THE STREETS MAD AT ME BECAUSE I TOLD HIM WHAT I TOLD HIM AND HE SAID THIS HAS ONLY HAPPENED ONCE OR TWICE BEFORE .I KNOW HE IS LYING BECAUSE THERE WAS SOMETHING THAT HE SAID TO ME THAT MADE ME REMEMBER SOMTHING HE SAID TO ME YEARS AGO .AT WORK .ERECT WEARIGN A LONG SHIRT............I ASKED HIM WHAT IS HE THINKING WHEN THIS HAPPENS HE SAID NOTHING HE JUST FEELS A GOOD SENSATION DOWN THERE AND I SAID IS IT HARD FOR HIM WHEN HE IS AROUND WOMEN AT WORK OR AROUND TOWN.HE SAID NO ........THEN HE HOLLERED AT ME AND SAID I THINK OF YOU AND WANT TO GET WITH YOU ........THEN HE RAN OUT OF THE HOUSE....WHY DOES HE NEED V..NO PROBLEMS BEFORE .....HE TOLD ME HE ASKED HIS DOCTER FOR IT AND HE GAVE IT TO HIM .SEXUALLY HE SEEMS THE SAME...I FEEL HURT WHY DOS HE NEED V TO BE WITH ME ......WALKING AROUND WITH A BONER I FEEL WILL GET HIM IN TROUBLE.I CAN`T SEE MY SELF HALF SEXUALLY STIMULATED AT WORK AND AROUND TOWN .......FOR WHAT .......WHY IS BEFORE ALL TIS AND AFTER V IS MY HUSBAND AT WORK AND PLAY WITH A BONER HE SAID HE DOES NOT KNOW A 46 YEAR OLD MAN DOESN`T KNOW HE IS SEXUALLY STIMULATED SOME HOW SOME WHERE......AND IT IS NOT BECAUSE OF ME. [304]
Gender: F
Age: 54
State: ny
Country: usa
Experience...
I want to help my sister. She has been trying to help her teenager girls stay out of trouble but its not working for her. The girls have been involved in drinking, drugs and abusive behavior with their mother. Lots of yelling and disapointments. Its been hard for my sister because I believe she has bi polar tendencies and her daughter has been diagnosed with bi polar and doesn`t go for help or take medications that were prescribed. Its hard because the girls lost their father at a very young age. Their father was a drug addict and commited suicide when he was 34 years old. It was hard for their mother because she had to place them in daycare and work to make ends meet. A stepfather was introduced into the situation which didn`t work well for the girls. He seemed to be caring and good for them at first of course but then the relationship wasn`t that as a father but more as a battle to get the girls to do as he wished them to do. The girls were also allowed to have designer clothes and weren`t expected to do their responsibilties. They became lazy and combative at a very young age. The girls were also given cars and insurance and have made very bad choices for friends. Both have been arrested and either been drunk or have experimented with drugs. its very complicated. My sister is hurt and bitter and has told her daughter the oldest one that she never wants to see her again. the oldest girl also has let several boys move into her apartment and they are trashing the place and doing drugs and drinking and recently got the younger sister drunk at age 17. how do you help them. do you let them just become drug and alcohol addicts. its breaking her heart. especially since she helped the girls get into cheerleading and band and did everything to make the girls seem and look popular in school. my sister has also battled cancer and also had a stroke not long ago. I want to help her. got any suggestions [286]
Gender: F
Age: 42
State: ca
Country: USA
Experience...
At 42 you`d think I`d know enough about life to handle my own problems. But, it doesn`t matter if you are 17 or 42....you still don`t have instructions for this life. I was a good girl until I was 18, had sex with a guy due to my broken heart over another guy...I would show him. Yeah, I showed him alright. I just started having sex with guys here and there...looking for love. At 24 I meet a man I feel in love with. After 2 years of our being together I got a sore in my vaginal area. I had it tested and it was negative for herpes. My life follows that I divorced him a year later, married another man had a child, and we divorced after 8 years. I continued to get this re-occuring sore that would always show up in the same spot and last about a week or two. None of these men ever showed any signs of this and several times throughout this 18 year period, I was tested over and over again for herpes...with negative results.
It only follows that I didn`t even think to tell the new man in my life about it until I got the sore again. He asked me to have it checked again and I went to a new doctor and got a new test. Not just one, but two. Both came up negative for Herpes. Each time I had a sore, about 4 or 5 since we`ve been together the past 4 1/2 years, I`ve asked him to look at it....with a flash light and even with a magnifying glass. He has. A couple of weeks ago I got it back...so we were looking up google "Images", and we googled herpes. He found a sore that looked exactly like what I get. He didn`t say anything...just grew distant over the next week. Now, this otherwise supportive, loving, wonderful man has accused me of keeping this from him. Of not pursuing the possibilities enough and of putting him in danger. I`m devistated. I`m shocked. I`m reeling from a double whamy, because I believed the doctors. Now, if what he is saying could be true, what if I have herpes? I`ve lost him already because he thinks I didn`t tell him everything....but, wouldn`t you do your own research after looking at a vaginal sore, with a flashlight and a magnifying glass???? I`m curious to know how a man might feel about this - considering that he has know about it and been with me over and over for over 4 years.
So, now what do I do with my life? I don`t have a diagnosis of herpes, but I`m not normal. Most of all my heart is aching from being accused of this terrible thing from the man that I love.
We never see this stuff coming. But, I will allow myself the time to grieve, then I will get up, dust myself off, square my shoulders, and try to be proud of who I am. I hope that you all will do the same. [267]
Gender: F
Age: 19
State: St Vincent & the Grenadines
Country: st.vincent & the Grenadines
Experience...
i was wit someone who i contact this virus from.When i confronted him he told me it can`t b him,to go an ask my other boyfriend. I don`t have any other boyfriend it was him alone .I never saw any unusaly sores on his penis no sign`s at all .It so happenemd that another person is invovled after i found out i had the virus i had sex with him without telling him anything,i was afraid of being shunned the first time we had sex i knew nothing about it the second time i found out but was ashamed 2 tell him anything.now i turn out 2 be the worst person 2 both him and my boyfriend .i already left my boyfriend at the time before i slept with this person .i was afraid in a sense 2 break this news 2 my boyfriend at the time but i did he diid nt take it light i just feel like committing a suicide .i have alraedy made i1 attempt [241]
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