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Knowledge is POWER.
Gender: F
Age: 19
State: california
Country: usa
Experience...
I AM 19 I HAVE A 21 MONTH OLD SON AND A 6 WEEK OLD DAUGHTER AND I JUST FOUND OUT ON 8/1/O7. I HAVE A FIANCE HE JUST PROPOSED WE HAVE BEEN TOGETHER FOR TREE YEARS. I USED TO BE EXTREMLY SEXUALLY ACTIVE I HIGH SCHOOL SO I DON`T KNOW WHO I GOT IT FROM. I WAS SHOCKED TO HERE IT FROM THE DOCTOR, SHE TOLD ME I HAVE HERPES, BUT WHAT AM GOING TO DO I HAVE IT I CAN`T DO ANYTHING ELSE BUT GO ON WITH MY LIFE AND LIVE, BUT IT IS MY FIRST OUTBREAK IT HAS BE GOING ON KNOW FOR 6 DAYS KNOW AND IT IS JUST UNBEARABLE CONSTANT PAIN I HAVE BEEN THROUGH LABOR TWICE AND THAT WAS NOTHING COMPARED TO THE PAIN I AM IN NOW. MY FIANCE WAS JUST DUMB FOUNDED BUT WE HAVE AN UNPROTECTED SEX NUMEROUS TIME SO HE IS OBVIOUSLY INFFECTED BUT HE HAS NEVER HAD AN OUTBREAK. BUT HE STILL LOVES ME I MEAN WAS ELSE IS HE GOING TO DO. I HAVE A GREAT JOB, TWO BEAUTIFUL KIDS, A LOVING FIANCE AND I AM GETTING MARRIED IN THE BEGINING OF 2008. I HOPE IF YOUR READING THIS IT GIVES YOU HOPE AND DON`T LET IT FELL LIKE THE END OF YOUR LIFE JUST LOK AT IT THIS WAY YOU ARE ON A ROAD TRIP YOU DON`T KNOW EXACTLY WERE YOU ARE GOING YOU STOP AND ASK DIRECTIONS WHICH END UP TAKING YOU TO A DEAD END YOU NEED TO MAKE A U-TURN AND START YOU ROAD TRIP OVER IN A NEW DIRECTION SOBEFORE YOU START YOU ROAD TRIP MAPQUEST IT SO YOU KNOW EXACTLY WERE YOU ARE GOING IN YOUR LIFE DON`T TRUST SOME ONE ON THE SIDE OF THE ROAD. [551]
Gender: F
Age: 34
Experience...
I was diagnosed with Herpes 1&2 after having a blood test, and my goodness after reading all these negative stories I hope no one reads this site, but I just want to say that all of us should be praying to our lord and savior and putting it in Gods hands, and he will find a solution. Its not the end of the world. Good god it could happen to anyone who has unprotected sex it just happened to us is all, but oh well don`t let it take over your life its just a psychological thing. It ain`t gonna harm your body its gonna harm your mind if you let it, so calm down. [550]
Gender: M
Age: 42
State: qc
Country: canada
Experience...
Have been infected for 4 years. Was in steady relationship when she came home one evening crying. Informed me of her outbreak and suggested that I get tested. Discovered that I was infected with hsv 2. Have had 4 outbreaks in the 4 years. I am no longer in the relationship with the person who gave me this gift! I have had 3 partners in the past 2.5 years and have always informed my new partners of my condition before having any form of intimacy with them. Even offered to go to the doctor with them so they can make up their own mind wether to pursue a relationship together. 2 times out of the three they decided to get involved and see if we could make a go of a relationship. I am currently in the process of the 3rd go at it. All of the times I was honest about the condition I had was appreciated. The persons did not go running scared in the opposite direction. I believe that it is my obligation to inform anyone who I am about to get into any level of intimacy with about my condition. The rest is up to them. The hardest part is the shame and anger that accompany me when I have to inform the people about it. I am always very surprised of the level of comprehension and compassion that accompanies my disclosure. I now know that one can have a very fulfilling life even if I do have herpes. It is all in the way you deal with the disease. It is all a state of mind. I choose to live my life to the fullest and take every day as it comes and hope for the best. May you who read this message of hope find comfort. ABOVE ALL YOU MUST BE HONEST ABOUT IT. REMEMBER WHO LOOKS AT YOU IN THE MIRROR IN THE MORNING FOR THE REFLECTION WILL ALWAYS BE THE SAME ONE. DO YOU WANT TO LOVE THAT PERSON OR BE ASHAMED OF THEM. [545]
Gender: F
Age: 28
Country: South Korea
Experience...
I was diagnosed with HSV 1 & 2 in April 2006. I did not know how long I had had it for but I suspect now, knowing the symptoms a couple of years at least. I have had several long term relationships as well as the "college years" adventures. Many people may consider me a slut, I however do not. There are always reasons why people have more than an average amount of sexual partners. My brother says that I am like a wine taster. Interesting analogy. Since being diagnosed I have told all my close family - none of them were really surprised, I think they were glad it was nothing life threatening. I had the daunting task of telling an ex boyfriend whom I was very much in love with and hopes of getting back together that I had contracted it and that he should get tested. He was shocked, but more shocked that I had had unprotected sex since we had split up and there was a chance of us getting back together. Needless to say we did not get back together; he also has not told me whether or not he has contracted it too. Chances are high though I think. After finding out I was very upset, but my sister is a professor and had done research on the virus so I was well informed. However I left for Korea shortly after finding out so I have not had any medication. I have not needed any yet "touch wood". I have been in Korea now for over a year and I have told two men about my condition. One is one of my best friends for years that came to Korea to visit me. We had a holiday romance and he was very supportive - he even confessed that he had had oral thrush. I think this was said to make me feel better ...bless him. We tried to continue the long distance thing with him returning to England, but we were better off as friends. Just as well as soon after that I met my now fiancée. Who also took the news of my herpes well. He was particularly supportive this weekend when I got what I now know to be an outbreak. Small and discreet but still there. About 2 months into the relationship, he decided I was the one and despite my better judgement we agreed to take the relationship further and share my disease. He said it would improve our quality of life, so he would have to keep washing himself every time he touched me. He is an amazing man, and he is testament to the fact that there is life after herpes. Unfortunately he is quite sick today, with several of the symptoms of herpes, but no sores, so I fear that he may be in line for his first outbreak. Hopefully his symptoms will be as mild as mine and he will not regret his decision to share every part of my life. I just pray to God, that other people can find the happiness that they deserve in life and that herpes does not ruin YOUR life. God bless you and keep you - there is always hope and love out there. [539]
Gender: M
Age: 39
State: ma
Country: usa
Experience...
I was with someone who had genital herpes and i was told i had genital herpes over 15 yrs ago. I did not believe it as my symptoms were so mild and years apart. I told no one, I was in denial i guess. Since then i had been in a few relaionships and my most recent was long term, almost 10 yrs.and my girl friend dont have symptoms. I cheated on my girl a couple times with the same person, used condom once but slipped the second time. Now she is showing symptoms of herpes. I still dont get sores or whatever, but I beleive it came from me, as i do get jock itch and what i though all this time was just hair bumps. I am going to devastated my family if I did infect this girl. It was not intentional, just stupid on muy part. I am going to loose my family, and friends, as well as people may try to kill me. I feel that ther is no reason to go on living, but i know i have to somehow some way. I am so sorry and i feel if i die then alittle of this virus will die with me, I deserve to die, because now I realize that i could have infected people all this time without realizing it.
I am so alone and affraid................. [516]
Gender: F
Age: 38
State: BC
Country: Canada
Experience...
I have lived with herpes for 15 years. Got it after marraige. My husband does`nt want to get tested. I think I`ve contracted it from him although I was in relationships before. All I want to share with people in my situation is that I`ve been able to control/lessen the out breaks with HOMEOPATHIC medicine. It stops it right away. All you need to do is find a good homeopathic doctor and let them treat you. Life will never be the same.
In parting know that you are more than this body! You are a dearly loved and special soul. You are not defined by an affliction! How, where or who gave it to you----- it does`t matter---its a cross to bear and how you bear it is what matters.
Will you let a virus dictate the rest of your life. Make the best of what life has in store for you. Be positive! Be brave! Know there is sunshine after rain, there is spring after winter.
I have already been thrugh shock, upset, upheaval and why me. I think knowledge and awareness helps. Meditation helps to calm your mind. Happiness should come from within. You can find it and you can live it. God Bless! [510]
Gender: F
Age: 24
State: ca
Country: usa
Experience...
though my years are few in number i have had my share of the free clinic.
i was a patron geting tested frequently & i ocationaly donated to thier funds. i must say there are great doctors out there but not enough to make up for the flakes. also there are many disorganized decriptions of what precludes any cirtin kind of s.t.d. the psyical symtoms are easily mistaken always get a second opinion for instance herpes 1 tons of people have it & you can have it genitaly chancroid,syphilis,& many others mimmic one & other especialy when your immune function is high it can be impossible to have an accurate test due to these surrounding issues although the doctors are too less then perfect free clinic is the way to go you must be clear on what is needed & it gives you the oppertunity to be tested frequently for many things . i have had many things & some doctors do lie not always on perpose your body is a squishy machine that is made for living you may feel scared by life but with the proper intake the machines that we are regenerate & function the same with or with out a trace of tiny forgin passengers although small if untreated these things can cause serious damage over time imagine having irriversable damage because you did not get a second opinion & mostly remember a positive attitude is the best way to get what you need [500]
Gender: F
Age: 29
State: Ma
Country: united states
Experience...
I found out three weeks ago that I have gential herpes and im feeling really bad. I feel so degusting,like my life is over. I recently broke up with my boyfriend in whitch we were together for a year,we have been friends for about four years.The whole time that we have been friends we have been haveing sex,within this last year we stop useing condoms.I told him the other day that I had herpes,at first he was really upset,he goes back and forth.He is going to get tested, I just hope he doesnt have it.. I think he is goining to hate me. I feel like I ruined my life and possibly his. I am completly devasted is it ever going to get better? Because right now I feel like my bigest fear is comeing true that I m going to end up alone... [491]
Gender: F
Age: 38
State: MI
Country: usa
Experience...
I am getting into a relationship with a man who has genital herpes. He is the most beautiful person I have ever met. My doctor has told me to use condoms every time we have sex, but would I contract the virus if I give oral sex without a condom? I have never done that before and it seems weird. [481]
Gender: F
Age: 17
State: CALIFORNIA
Country: U.S
Experience...
I just recently got with a guy a couple of months ago.I met him when i went with my friend to go visit her friend in a different town.We spent about 4 days together.Than after i went back home we kept in touch he than moved down here and is staying with his brother.He never told me that he has or might have herpes of any kind ,but i felt he was hiding somthing from me.I than found a way to get a hold of his ex g/f we talked for hours about various things she than told me that my b/f might have herpes but she wasnt sure.My b/f went out with a girl before his last ex that definately does have herpes.She said that he might not have it though because she was tested and her results were negative.I brought this up to him and he admitted that one of his ex g/f did have it and he was never tested but he doesnt think he has it cause he hasn`t had an out break.Well not knowing much about it i continued on with are normal sexual activities.I recently started feeling pain and itching around my vaginal area at first i thought it was irratation from sexual intercourse.After looking at my vagina and comparing that to the pics i looked at over the internet im starting to think otherwise im going to go get tested as soon as possible after reading the stories of others it has giving me the strenght to move on if i do have this unfortunate std. [470]
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