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Knowledge is POWER.
Gender: F
Age: 33
State: CA
Country: USA
Experience...
I have been in a monogomous long distance relationship for 4 years. He told me I was his love and that he would never do anything to hurt me. We were sexually intimate because I believed him. Before I was intimate with him, I had no rashes of any kind or anything else.
Two years ago I freaked out because I had cold sores and I had never had those. He told me they were perfectly OK and that they were just boo boos. I went to the doctor and he told me I had HSV-1. The doctor didn`t give me any signs that it was bad so I just went on and didn`t get any help even though I was extremely depressed.
But even before that, I felt intense itch and burning in my gential area. I chalked it up to irritation from sexual activity. But, my worst fears came true this Saturday. He came out of the bathroom and showed me the rash on his penis. He said that he had rashes on it before but never like that; he was so nonchalant that I knew he`s lying.
I freaked out again because, I believe I have HSV-2. I am angry, depressed, and intensly disgusted by secrets. I am going to get tested again. If it turns out I have HSV-2, which I am pretty sure it is, the relationship is over. Not because of the fact he has HSV-2, but because he chose to keep it a secret.
This is something that people should not shrug off because they are desperate for a mate.
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Gender: F
Age: 26
State: IL
Country: USA
Experience...
I HAVE BEEN DATING THIS GUY FOR ABOUT 2 MTHS AND WE RECENTLY STARTED HAVING PROTECTED SEX AND, HE SUPRISED ME BY EATING ME OUT.NOW I REALLY FEEL GUILTY ABOUT NOT TELLING HIM I REALLY HAVE TO TELL HIM NOW.I DIDNT PLAN ON TELLING HIM FOR A WHILE IF WE COULD STAY AWAY FROM THE ORAL SEX AND,STAY PROTECTED.BUT NOW I FEEL TERRIBLE I HAVE HAD HERPES TYPE 2 FOR 7YRS OR SO AND, IT ONLY GETS HARDER AND,FUKING HARDER 2 TELL SOMEONE U THINK U CARE ABOUT AND, U THINK U CARE ABOUT DAMN IM SO SICK OF THIS SHIT!!!! BUT, IM GOING TO TELL HIM THE NEXT TIME I SEE HIM AND, NOTHING WILL STOP ME. IF HE IS REALLY INTO ME MAYBE HE WILL STAY OR MAYBE NOT... BUT FUCK IT. HER I GO. [485]
Gender: M
Age: 36
Experience...
My secret is that I have fallen in love with my sister-in-law - my wife`s sister. She is smarter, intelligent and a top exec in an IT firm. I held her hand once and tried to tell her but couldn`t. I think she knows. However, she is too smart and never acknowledges that. What can I do now? [368]
Gender: F
Age: 19
State: ILL
Country: usa
Experience...
IM SO DAMN DUMB! WHEN ME AND MY BOYFRIEND WENT THROUGH A LITTLE SPLIT UP, I SLEPT WITH A GUY I HAD A CRUSH ON. THEN ABOUT A WEEK LATER ME AND MY BOYFRIEND HOOKED BACK UP. ABOUT 2 WEEKS LATER I FOUND OUT THAT I HAD HERPES. OH YEAH HE DID TOO! MY BOYFRIEND THAT IS. NOW, IM CONFIDENT THAT I DIDNT GET IF FROM MY BF BUT THEN AGAIN IM HAVING DOUBTS. I FEEL LIKE I HAVE BEEN BELITTLED BY SOMEBODY. I CONFRONTED THE OTHER GUY BUT HE DENIED IT BUT YET EVERYTIME I SEE HIM HE DWELLS ON HOW GOOD IT WAS AT FIRST AND THAT HE WANTS TO DO IT AGAIN. THAT THROWS ME OFF. THE REASON WHY THIS IS SUCH A HUGE SECRETE IS BECAUSE MY BF DONT KNOW I SLEPT WITH THAT OTHER GUY. ITS ALL MY FAULT. I KNOW I TRANSMITTED IT TO MY BF. I HOPE MY HEAVENLY FATHER FORGIVES ME! [325]
Gender: F
Age: 15
Country: Scotland
Experience...
Even though people feel I`m gifted musically, I`d rather become a curmudgeon and think about what I could have been, than go out and become all I can. I never practice, and yet I`m good enough to beat those who practice daily. I feel Guilty that I have no ambition for my talent whatsoever. I want to tell the people who envy me that I am infect jealous of them. I like to feel wanted, but feel the only reason people talk to me is because they think its cool to have the intillectual as a friend. [196]
Gender: F
Age: 36
State: fl
Country: usa
Experience...
I have been dating my boyfriend for 9 months and 2 days ago he told me he has had herpes for 4yrs. I was in shock, I mean I would have never known if he had not told me. I also have a family member who has it so I am aware of the disease, and no that it may be life long, but it is not something you can`t move forward with. I do not have it and will choose to stay with my boyfriend because he is the love of my life. I would stay with him if he had told me he had cancer or if he had lost his limbs so don`t be discouraged of finding someone, but do be honest with them from the beginging. I plan on a marriage with this man and living happily ever after, just know that you will have to be careful and get educated on the disease and everything can be worked out!! [155]
Gender: F
Age: 21
State: New York
Country: USA
Experience...
My secret if that i have two boyfreinds. They both want to marry me and I do not know what to do or who to choose. I wish I could choose one of them because I feel that every day of my life is a lie. Ohh yeah and I have Herpes so I am scared to get rid of one. Because if it does not work out with one I can try to make it work out with the other. [154]
Gender: F
Age: 45
State: new hampshire
Country: usa
Experience...
i have been cheating on the person i care about and then told him i never loved you i just felt sorry for you i am suppose to be a christian everyone my friend told about this thought i was an evil person, the devil i hope i can break this hold on me and apologize to the person i hurt [126]
Gender: F
Age: 54
State: Fl
Country: United States
Experience...
My boyfriend of 3 months just called me to tell me that the doctor told him he has herpes. Yesterday he broke out in his arm on one arm only from the wrist to the shoulder a few sores. I have read all I can on this and I don`t see where anyone has broken out on the arm it is usually the eyes the lips and genitals. The doctor told him to stay away from all types of shell fish and I think he knows what he is talking about. Can you please advise me on this diagnosis? [47]
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