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I am a male sexually abused by a female adult relative when a child. It involved her nudity and grossed me out. I was a virgin when married, on our wedding night the nudity reminded me of the abuser and I was unable to be aroused. The problem has never left. I am attracted to women, have sexual feelings, am not gay and have no sexual deviation thoughts, but despite having been happily married to a lovely lady for years have never been able to feel sexual desire for her. I don`t know if it is related to being married as she is the only person I have ever had sex with or have seen nude. She was also a virgin, raised religiously as was I. On wedding night she surprised me by expressing a desire not to see my nudity as she indicated she thought mens anatomy was gross--this of course was not the best first experience for a sensitive male with no experience. Made me feel ashamed and maybe has contributed to the problem. She has changed her feelings over the course of our marriage, but I am still without sexual desire for her although I respect and love her. I am not familiar with the literature of sexual disfunctionality and wonder if there is anything I can read that can help me or if others have had similar problems and found resolvement. [535]
Gender: F
Age: 39
State: IL
Country: USA
Experience...
I need help...I love my husband and when we first got together 7 years ago we were able to get past his erectile difficulties with mainly by him bringing me to multiple orgasms "by hand." We have since then been married for three years and ever since we said " I DO" it seems he`s lost all intrest in whether I have an orgasm or not. He`s made comments to the affect I take to long (after only 5 minutes!!), his hands have gotten considerably rougher since he was finally diagnosed a diabetic and they feel like sandpaper in that very delicate area. He will not try anything different because he feels uncomfortable about everything. I have spent hundreds of dollars on different things from flavored massage items to vibrators but he absolutly will not try anything at all. I want to stay faithful to my husband but after spending repeated nights crying myself to sleep in frustration I gave up and I now sleep on the couch.( No expectation , No dissappointment. ) I`ve tried talking to him rationally in and out of the bedroom, I`ve tried begging, pleading,anger,and yes,I`m ashamed to admit it but,I`ve even thown things. PLEASE,YOU MEN OUT THERE, am I beating a dead horse,is there something I need to do to get through to him. It`s affected our relationship in so many ways now. I just want the guy back that I was dating before I married him. What else can I try????? [527]
Gender: F
Age: 39
State: bc
Country: canada
Experience...
I am in love with a man who loses his erection whenever he tries to enter me. All other forms of sex are with satisfactory results. He gets an erection every time he kisses me. My love holds me all night long & tells me I am the love of his life, the only person he has ever truly loved. He supports me & my children, is true to me & wants to marry me. He suffered severe emotional & sexual abuse as a child but until he met me, never told anyone about it. He is neither a sexual preditor (pedaphile) nor is he attracted to men although he uses dildos on occasion (fails to get an erection). Any suggestionS welcome pls. [488]
Gender: M
Age: 48
State: wa
Country: america
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I have satifing sex but it is difficult in ejaculating even with masterbation [390]
Gender: M
Age: 23
State: Gauteng
Country: South Africa
Experience...
I am still a young man currently in a relationship.I love my girlfriend and would like to show it to her in every possible way.Our sexual relationship has been great the past couple of months and there has not been any problems in that division.The last couple of weeks we have been going through a rough patch where certain things of the past started coming out.We talked about it and are moving on with the relationship and I am still very much in love with her,but my problem is now when we become intimate and make love I am batteling to ejaculate.This is now becoming a big problem and I am not sure what is the cause for this?My girlfriend thinks that I am not interested in her anymore and this is really effecting our relationship.Is this normal at my age?What can I do to resolve this problem? [343]
Gender: M
Age: 47
State: nsw
Country: Australia
Experience...
I have suffered with erection problems for the last 10 years,last year i went to my Doctor to find out what could be done, he gave me a prescription for Cialis and that cured my erection problem, the best thing ever i now have a very active sexual life and advise all who are having problems to go to there doctor and disscuss there situation [342]
Gender: M
Age: 52
State: ca
Country: USA
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I have been experiencing "Ejaculatory Incompetance", where I am unable to ejaculate during sex. My Doctor has given me Viagra AND Cialias...which help...sometimes...has anyone else been helped with any other means of treatment?...I`m getting depressed, not being able to satisify my partner. [298]
Gender: F
Age: 33
State: IL
Country: usa
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I am currently having some problems with my sex drive; whatever there is of it. I have a hard time getting aroused and sometimes loose interest in the middle of intercourse. [283]
Gender: F
Age: 59
Country: cayman islands
Experience...
I am married to my husband for 30 years he has been having unsafe sex with several woman and i found out in 1998 that he has herpes 1 and 2 i suspected that something was wrong for years aas evertime we have sex i have serious problem passing my urine and always have severe headache among many other things no doctor could every say what was it any how ever i took a blood test that reveal i have herpes 1 and 2 this man continues to be very unfaithful and i am becoming more and more sick everyday i am in and out of hospital with flu lke symtoms and high fever but i am too ashame to let the doctors know i have herpes . I cannot have sex as if i tried i am always in so much pain in my vagina i am worried that because i have warts so often that i might have some thing wrong with my cervics please help me [281]
Gender: M
Age: 46
State: ontario
Country: canada
Experience...
I am a 46 year old male who divorced 2 years ago. Recently, I became involved with a single female. She and I have been intimate. We have spent time giving each other erotic massages. It is very pleasant. The problem developed when I attempted to put on a condom. I lost my erection. Very disappointing. We tried lubricants and a cock ring as well as manual stimulation. No luck. I went to a Doctor and got a prescription for Viagara. I cut the pills in half. Though my partner and I have not tried this. I am trying it on my own as I type. I have a condom on and an solid erection. I really think this might work fine. Thank you. [252]
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